Hello and happy Monday!
Time management and self-care is what I want to talk about this week. As we get busier and busier, we forget to take time for ourselves and plan out things we’d like to get done. It can be hard to feel motivated to get things done or work towards a goal when you are feeling down or anxious.
While I was feeling that way, I had to take baby steps to work towards that bigger goal. When my anxiety and depression hit me hardest, I would constantly isolate myself and couldn’t be bothered to go anywhere or get things done. A simple tool (that mom suggested, yay for moms!) is to just write out to-do lists for the next day or week. It may seem really simple, but when your mind is racing and constantly worrying, you need to have some kind of focus and sense of achievement when things are marked done.
Sometimes my lists would be very simple. Read two chapters of my book, go for a walk, meditate, pick up groceries, etc. Other days they would be more specific. Run 5 km, go meet with this person and attend this event, etc. Even if I was having a lazy Netflix day, or a -50 day where you don’t go outside, I would still make a simple list. Once I was able to cross off my list, then I could relax and watch TV, go on the internet or get out and be social. If I had a day off from work, sometimes I would be in such a state of panic because “I had nothing to do.” This would just turn into worry and panic, but these simple lists became part of a daily routine and it made a huge difference in the long run.
Another thing that happens to all of us, whether you are feeling anxious or not, is we forget about self-care. We get so busy taking care of our families or our work, we forget to take care of ourselves. This will look different for most people. Some people love retail therapy, massages, watching a good movie, fishing or working out. For me, I started with film and TV costuming and makeup. I have been fascinated with film and TV and costuming for as long as I can remember. This interest kept me busy, kept my creativity going and, most importantly, it was a good distraction from the worrying. Self-care doesn’t have to be expensive or time consuming – simply make and take time for yourself and do something you enjoy.
Another part of my self-care was driving. Now I’m not talking driving Circle Drive at 4:30 p.m., but driving north of La Ronge to a campground or lake was nice. I could put on some good music, take my time and just enjoy the drive. I did this almost every other day, going a little farther each time. Eventually, I felt okay enough to do the longer drive to Saskatoon alone. Taking time for myself, gaining more confidence and pushing little by little really made the worries disappear.
So my advice would be to find what self-care means to you, set aside some time and really take your time to enjoy yourself. This will keep you motivated and in good spirits. And no matter how simple, to-do lists can make a huge difference in feeling accomplished.
Thanks for catching up with me this week, and I will see you on the next one!